The Christian funeral service is for the living to celebrate the life of the deceased. The liturgy for the dead is an Easter liturgy. It finds all meaning in the Resurrection. Because Jesus was raised from the dead, we too, shall be raised. The liturgy, therefore, is characterized by joy, in the certainty that “neither death, not life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor things present, nor things to come, nor powers, nor height, nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.” (Romans 8:38-39) This joy, however, does not make human grief unchristian. The very love we have for each other in Christ brings deep sorrow when we are parted by death. Jesus himself wept at the grave of his friend. So, while we rejoice that someone we love has entered into the nearer presence of our Lord, we sorrow in sympathy with those who mourn. Contact us HERE for more information.
Funerals at All Saints are generally for members and their family members. Exceptions will be considered case-by-case. Funerals are held at All Saints on Tuesdays, Thursdays, and Saturdays, and must be confirmed by the church prior to finalizing the date and time. The funeral service may be held immediately before the interment of the body or the ashes, or at a time after interment. The service should be held at a time when the congregation has an opportunity to be present. We encourage people to plan on a start time between 9:00 AM and 3:00 PM. Funerals are considered part of the essential work of the church. As such, there are no set fees for funerals at All Saints, with the exception of an honorarium to the Music Minister, which typically ranges between $150-200. Any other offerings, including the potential contribution to the bereavement fund for reception costs, are completely optional.
Receptions and similar functions after the funeral service are completely optional - there is no expectation or obligation! Should the family wish to host a reception, please notify our clergy at least three days in advance, and please note there are three options:
When To Call: If at all possible, when a person is near death, please consider contacting one of our clergy so that the ministrations of the Church may be provided as desired. If prior contact has not been made for any reason, it is important that the death of a member of the church be reported as soon as possible to a priest of the congregation. Cremation Considerations: For those who wish to be cremated, it is entirely appropriate that a priest and members of the family pray together with the body before it is cremated. Please let the funeral home or crematorium know as soon as possible if the family would like this opportunity. All Saints has a columbarium for the interment of cremains. Please consult with the clergy if you are interested in a columbarium space. Initial Meeting: When all parties are prepared to do so, arrangements for the funeral service will be made in consultation with one of our priests and in collaboration with the funeral home chosen by the family. At that time, the family will assist the priest in assembling the details of the service, such as format, readings, hymns, etc. Prayers with the family and the deceased are also offered. Please note that this meeting should take place prior to the family taking any steps to publicize the scheduling of a service. Other Planning Considerations During the service planning process, the family and priest will also discuss other topics, likely including: Family Participation: Family and friends are encouraged to take an active part in the service. At this emotional time, care should be taken in choosing those relatives who will participate. Parts of the service which are appropriate for family and friends are: • Reading the lessons • Leading the Prayers of the People • Bringing the bread and wine to the altar for communion • Serving as Pallbearers Eulogies and Remembrances: While it can be an important part of a family’s grieving process to share stories of their family member, we highly recommend that remembrances take place outside the sacred structure of the funeral service, both to preserve the sanctity of the occasion and to avoid placing the speaker in a vulnerable position during a time of often unexpected emotional turmoil. Suitable times for family eulogies are at a funeral home visitation or at a reception after the service and committal. Please consult with your officiating priest if a family member requests an exception to this practice. Flowers: Flowers are optional and may be displayed at the altar for the funeral service. If the funeral will take place in close schedule proximity to weekend services, families may consider using the floral arrangement already in place for the funeral service. If you would like to use a local florist to provide family-selected flowers for the altar, please do so in consultation with the officiating priest. We recommend Janousek Florist, 402-556-5652, for flower arrangements. Any flowers sent or brought to All Saints may be displayed around the Guest Table in the Narthex (entry area) of the church. Music: Service music is optional but encouraged. Hymns selected should be general hymns of faith, hymns related to the readings, Easter or All Saints hymns, or those appointed in the Hymnal for burial, and it is the custom of All Saints for these to be played on the organ or piano. Care should be taken that those likely to be in the congregation know the hymns and service music. A list of suggested hymns is available. The Director of Music at All Saints will play at all funeral services, unless unavailable to do so. If this should happen, the Director of Music will work with the family to arrange for the musician. Should the family wish to include a soloist, they must coordinate with the Director of Music. Estimated Attendance: Pews will be reserved at the front of the church for the family and for pallbearers. Please let the priest know ahead of time how many pallbearers there will be and how many family members will be seated in the reserved area. Communion: A celebration of the Eucharist is optional but encouraged as an appropriate expression of the union of the living and the departed in Christ in the communion of saints. In our church, all who feel God's call are welcome at the altar for communion with no preconditions. Visitations: Arrangements can be made for the visitation of family and friends, and for viewings of the body. This should be arranged with the funeral home you have chosen. While a visitation is completely discretionary, we have found that providing this opportunity has several benefits. It is an excellent avenue to give people a chance to offer sympathy to the family and to share with each other at the time of death. Visitation scheduling options may include: • A specified time for family to receive friends at home • A time at the church • After the service at the church • The family may receive people in the Parlor prior to the service. • Visiting hours at the funeral home Many families have found that receiving people at the church after services either in the Undercroft or Narthex puts the least burden on the family. Receiving the Body into the Parish: Please coordinate the arrival of your loved one to the church to insure that a member of our staff is present. The funeral home may assist in this notification. After the remains arrive, they will be honored as directed in the Episcopal Book of Common Prayer: “The coffin is to be closed before the service, and it remains closed thereafter. It is appropriate that it be covered with a pall” (p. 468). Urns containing ashes will be covered in a similar way.
Service Bulletins: Service bulletins for the funeral will be produced by All Saints staff. If families would like to include a picture of their loved one on the bulletin cover, please provide a digital version (preferred) or print copy to the church staff. Funeral Servers: All Saints staff will solicit parish members for volunteers to fill various server roles as required by the service format. Family members are welcome to act as servers if desired. Prior to Procession: Prior to the beginning of the funeral service, members of the family are invited to gather in the Parlor. It is appropriate that the family and friends come together for prayers prior to the funeral. The officiating priest will join you in the Parlor several minutes before the funeral begins and, after prayer, will escort the family to the doors of the Nave. Members of the family may choose to be seated in the Nave prior to the beginning of the service or walk in the procession into the church during the opening prayer. Procession: The lay ministers and clergy will enter in an appropriate liturgical procession from the back of the church. This will be explained and discussed by the officiating priest in the course of preparations for the funeral. The congregation stands at the beginning of the procession. Funeral Service: The congregation will be invited to stand, sit, and kneel as full participants in the service following the rubrics of The Book of Common Prayer. Here are sample funeral bulletins in PDF format. These will be used as a reference when you meet with the clergy for planning. Rite II - No Communion, No Music Rite II - Communion and Music Rite I - No Communion with Music Rite I - Communion, No Music Rite I - Communion and Music
The committal service at the graveside or columbarium is very brief. It can be held either prior to the church service or following it. Family and friends may choose a private service or may open the service to all. Military honors are welcome as part of the graveside service, but extra-liturgical ceremonies, including those held by fraternal organizations, may not be held on church grounds.
Parishioners are strongly encouraged to pre-arrange funeral plans with church staff and to maintain a copy of these plans on file with the parish office. Expenses: Funeral homes offer a very wide range of products and services with the associated cost range. If you have preferences or concerns about funeral expenses, we strongly advise you to specify them both in your planning documents and in your conversation with the consulting priest. Estate Planning and Memorial Gifts: Funeral planning is a natural extension of estate planning that encompasses wills, powers of attorney, advance directives, etc. We highly recommend that all members meet with one of our priests to include your funeral wishes in that process. Additionally, if you are considering gifts to All Saints in your planning, we would be honored to assist you in directing your gift toward a ministry that best matches your desires. Gifts may be made by individuals or by the family of the deceased. Please consult with one of our priests if you are considering such a bequest. Additional Information: The following documents may be useful to families making funeral plans. Reviewing them before your meeting with a priest will be an excellent starting point for both your family and the consulting priest in meeting your wishes for all appropriate funeral details. After your plans are established, we will maintain copies in the church office. We also strongly recommend distributing additional copies among family members who you expect to be involved in carrying out your end-of-life intentions. Pre-planning Checklist Funeral/Memorial Service Overview Service Planning Checklist Suggested Hymns for Funerals Suggested Readings for Funerals